Today I cleaned and rearranged the stuff in our kitchen cabinets. I probably called Ben on three separate occasions to tell him my progress and explain where I was putting stuff. He listens and praises my efforts...even though he can't really possibly care about the cabinets, especially while he's trying to work.
I may have picked the easiest man to be married to. He didn't quite choose as wisely as me, I mean the easiest wife probably doesn't make you listen to how she moved the toaster to a different section of the counter. *Seriously, I'm that exciting*
Anyways, I made myself a playlist of some of my current favorite songs. Ya know, to listen to while I cleaned cupboards. You do that, right? No?!? Hmmm...it's possible I'm more awkward than I thought. Who knew.
On that playlist is the song Broken Together by Casting Crowns. I probably listened to 10 times today (it wasn't a very long playlist, I underestimated how long cleaning out cabinets would actually take.)
After about the 7th time through it, I you-tubed it so I could catch the lyrics better. It's lovely. And so representative of all marriages, no matter what stage you're at. We all hit times of "drought" in our marriages because so much of life can demand our attention away from each other. It's tricky finding that balance.
The song is right. We are all broken people. We don't complete each other, Jesus alone completes us. It's so much easier to give love and grace when we each see our own brokenness. I don't have to complete him, and he doesn't complete me. The pressure would kill us. "The only way we'll last forever, is broken together."
I also listened to Lucy in the Sky With Diamonds (the Elton John version because it's my favorite) 10 times too. See: Broken.