tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7908185560435429588.post8386147852502402486..comments2023-06-27T02:47:36.624-05:00Comments on Life in the Parsonage: Lame-AwesomenessSarah@Life in the Parsonagehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03129742817309651806noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7908185560435429588.post-49815603294704623552015-06-21T16:26:13.378-05:002015-06-21T16:26:13.378-05:00Yes! I can totally relate. We were careful with ...Yes! I can totally relate. We were careful with what our kids watched on t.v. and movies, and they never went to a movie without an adult. We monitored their time on the computer and t.v. They were never allowed to just go "hang"at the mall.<br /><br />We set boundaries for them and it wasn't because we didn't trust them, it was because we didn't trust their judgement. At that age you can get yourself into some sticky situations that you don't really have the wisdom for.<br /><br />So we gave the guidelines and boundaries. Sure, they could have circumvented some things and we'd never have known. But that's where trust comes in. You do the best you can by teaching them, giving them love and grace and boundaries, and then you hope that those external boundaries causes them to build internal ones. Then you trust them to carry it out and trust the Lord to let you know if they aren't, lol!<br /><br />One of our kids once told me "My friends think you're a mean mom" and I said "Tell them thank you!!!" ;)<br /><br />We had a kind of a no-dating rule in their early teens. We figured giving a 16 year old guy a girl and a car was not a good idea, so no dates at 16. At 17 they were allowed to go out and hang out with their friends and it would be a "group date" if there was a girl they liked who was along, or they could invite her to go along. At 18 they were allowed to date. Sure the kid can be sneaky behind your back and date anyway, but we only needed to lay out our expectations and if they sneak around and don't meet them, that is between them and God. We can only do the best we can.<br /><br />But our kids are adults now and they have thanked us for the sheltering we did. My oldest once said "I didn't need all that stuff in my mind." But even if they didn't thank us, I would still believe that we did what we felt God was leading us to do in raising them.momsthewordhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14519343990735608713noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7908185560435429588.post-12849033644739952222015-06-16T14:45:13.262-05:002015-06-16T14:45:13.262-05:00TOTAL HIGH FIVE! We printed out an "applicati...TOTAL HIGH FIVE! We printed out an "application" to date our daughter, who isn't dating age yet, but we are preparing her of our MASSIVE LAME-NESS in advance, so when we start demanding to meet and hand out these "applications" she can save herself the embarssassment and already worn would be suitors, and be mindful of who is important enough to bring around this house of crazy.😉Sara@iSasshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12957397803528050139noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7908185560435429588.post-91333124817714067112015-06-16T13:01:32.792-05:002015-06-16T13:01:32.792-05:00I'm right there with you. I don't know som...I'm right there with you. I don't know sometimes how they survive without us right there.Leah Scotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10895278314518989772noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7908185560435429588.post-65690484776901858742015-06-16T08:40:55.516-05:002015-06-16T08:40:55.516-05:00*High five* ;)*High five* ;)Wendi@EveryDayMiracleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02726898493426028276noreply@blogger.com